Writing lesbian sex scenes for the hit Netflix series Orange is the New Black gave Lauren Morelli clarity on her own sexuality, and now the Orange writer has divorced her husband to date one of the stars of the show. Morelli and Samira Wiley, the actress who plays fan-favorite inmate Poussey, have officially confirmed their rumored relationship.

According to an essay she wrote for Mic, writing dialogue for the series’ lead characters Piper and Alex gave Morelli a “mouthpiece for my own desires and a glimmer of what my future could look like.”

“I realized I was gay in fall 2012, one of my first days on the set. It wasn’t so much one thing, but the sum of many small details: how uncomfortable I felt around groups of lesbians or how I considered myself (shrug) a “not very sexual person.” When considered alone, these seemed like little quirks that made me me,” wrote Morelli. “Wanting to read a book instead of have sex is a perfectly reasonable preference to have, right? But on set, these small moments came into sharp relief, and I found myself answering to an endless stream of cast members who peppered me with questions like a gaggle of kindergartners curious about their new teacher… I was finally forced to consider a question that had never, ever occurred to me before: Holy shit, am I gay?”

TMZ reports that the writer’s divorce went amicably after two years of marriage to her ex-husband. Now fully open about her sexuality, Morelli admits she no longer feels she is “stuck in the middle of two truths,” and recently posted a picture of herself next to girlfriend Wiley on Instagram.