How to become unbroken
I have a little thought experiment I’d like you to try. Imagine you could have any three superpowers. You know, flying, x-ray vision, that stuff. Pick three. Don’t tell anyone, just pick them.
Now I’m going to offer you a choice. You can have those three powers, or you can trade them in exchange for the ability to heal people.
Did you think of that one?
Think about it.
Most of the people I talk to would sooner take the power to heal over that other stuff. So they’re either lying, or there’s an innate desire built within each of us to want to help others.
And if you open your eyes and look around, there are a lot of broken people out there.
Most likely, you’re one of them. Most likely, you believe a broken person cannot heal others. It would be, as they say, the blind leading the blind.
I have observed in my life that the world we experience is the world we create for ourselves. Put simply, if I want to experience violence, I create violence. If I want to experience justice, I create justice. If I want to know love, create love, and if I want to know the truth, live the truth.
A few years ago, I went through a difficult part of my life — a time I will never forget. I was depressed. Surrounded by family, I felt lonely. I didn’t just feel broken, I felt defective. I sought ways to hurt myself. It’s been a long, difficult road, wrought with self-reflection on some painful things.
Somewhere, however, I discovered the secret to being healed: heal.
Forgive, and it shall be forgiven you. Judge not, lest ye be judged. If you’re one of those people who believe in Jesus, then follow his example: throughout his ministry, he went around healing people.
Initially, I was afraid to reach out. I was afraid to talk to people as though I had some perspective worth sharing. After all, I am broken; what can I fix? I’m not qualified. I’m not certified. How can a broken person ever heal others?
But what I saw is that the process of becoming unbroken involves that very thing. I might be tempted to hypothesize that one cannot hope to become healed if one does not heal others. And the power is already there. Indeed, the most broken people are capable of creating the most profound healing; the greater your brokenness, the more power you have.
It’s a heck of a thing to open one’s eyes to. And when I did open my eyes, I saw that if for one moment I stopped lamenting the wounds in my own life and focused on the wounds in others’, I could, just by listening and talking and by sharing perspective and sharing the truth, I could help to heal other broken people.
And then, when I looked back at my own wounds, they were healed.